The term “sense of entitlement” describes an outrageous attitude of people who believe that the world “owes” them and they want it now. The idea that one has a right to be given something which others believe should be obtained through effort. People with this type of attitude always want more. Whatever you do is never good enough for them, and they also generally show no gratitude or express any thanks when someone goes out of their way for them.
- I have the perfect right to do or say whatever I want and no one should object.
- My needs have priority, and if others don’t like it they just don’t understand my superiority.
- If you don’t do what I want I will become highly offended, make threats, plead with you, or criticize and blame you. If that upsets you, that’s your fault. And please don’t bother me with your feelings about it. It upsets me when you don’t see yourself as inferior to me.
- Relationships aren’t about give and take. They are about me taking and you giving. If you give and give with the hope that you will one day get your needs met, I will string you along as long as I can.
- When I turn on the pressure until you do what I want, or confuse you until you don’t know what’s up or down, it teaches me to try these techniques again.
- I like to mix things up by taking care of you and your needs once and awhile. It keeps you off balance, making you more easily controlled, and convinces you I’m really a good person after all.
Generally, these people are labeled narcissist, but I believe that you don’t have to be a narcissist to have a sense of entitlement. Let me clarify that statement as a “false sense of entitlement”. We all have certain privileges we are entitled to by law such as certain rights, opinions, and freedoms. But like all things that we get for free, we often fail to realize the value of the privileges we get with entitlement. People don’t feel like they have to earn what they so arrogantly assume they are entitled for.
Children are naturally egotistical, the world revolves around them, or at least as much of the world that they are concerned with. The typical toddler-like selfish attitude children have must be taught to have a proper sense of entitlement, not a false sense. Children need to be taught the connection between making an effort and achieving success.
Parenting today is very different than it was twenty years ago. Children in earlier generations were taught skills such as how to maintain a yard, change the oil in a car, and basic life skills. There are more working mothers, children in day care and single parents. The introduction of the internet, social networking, video consoles, and online gaming have changed the dynamics of childhood. No longer do children play outside, in groups of friends, games like hide and go seek, kick the can, or capture the flag. Children received gifts for their birthday or Christmas and did not get items unless they worked for it. Today children are spoiled having phones, iPads, computers, gaming consoles and more.
Children are being raised in cities having no idea how to cut grass, much less understand how to mix chemicals to kill the weeds, fertilize, or use a weed-eater or lawnmower. They don’t know what it is like to climb trees, ride their bikes around the neighborhood, or playing pick up basketball at the neighbors. Children are more transient today leaving them with few roots and more wings. Many children don’t graduate with the same acquaintances they started kindergarden with making life-long friends.
My boy’s have grown up with a privileged life. They have been blessed to live in nice homes, attend private schools, take nice vacations and attain the latest technological gadgets. We do not arbitrarily give our children things because they ask, yet they still live a privileged life. It is very important to me that my sons learn not only to be “Modern Day Knight’s”, but well-rounded men. Men that can run their household financially, physically and spiritually. I want my sons to be able to change the oil in the lawn mower, fix the leaky toilet and replace the hose on the washing machine. I want them to be like Handy Mandy and Mike Holmes.
I was blessed to have a Dad that could fix anything. He taught my brother how to do the same. They chop wood, put brakes on the car, change the spark plugs on the four-wheeler and whatever else needs to be done. My ex was very good at fixing things as well. My dad and brother have spent extra time this spring and summer teaching my boys these same skills. The boys can cut, chop and stack wood. My brother has taught the boys how to spray the yard for weeds, spread fertilizer, mow and use the weed-eater. My brother showed them how to repair a fence when they helped him remove the old wood and replace it with new wood. My uncle has worked with my youngest son to teach him how to properly care for his horse. My family will continue to work with the boys to teach them the skills that will make them well-rounded men.
My younger son’s, I do not think, appreciate these valuable lessons. My older son is still learning, as well, and as much as I would love to boast that he is grateful to be imparted this knowledge, I am not so sure. I feel like we are raising as a society of lazy, self-entitled humans. Their work ethic is marginal and careless. They do the bare minimum. As a parent, I can only train my children in the way should go and pray that when they grow older they will not depart from it. I will leave you with Bill Gates words of wisdoms for students.